Today is my wonderful husband’s birthday! And we are meeting him inMorgantownto eat at his favorite restaurant – Hibachi’s !
I, by nature and upbringing, am not a “celebration” kind of person. I remember on our birthdays my mom always made a Texas Sheet Cake – truly made with love – and can still see her and smell the cake. Don’t recall any parties (and I turned out okay I think). I use to make Mary this cake for her school birthday party (which have since been banned with the wellness policy – a whole other topic!) and for many kids it was the first time tasting a homemade cake (not from a box with canned icing or bought from a store). Anyway, that was the celebration.
Mary’s birthdays have always been a bigger deal – a family party at Nanny and Poppa’s with homemade pizza and cake. This year is different for her – she will be 13 and I really need to begin to PREPARE for the celebration (trying to avoid procrastination remember so I need to start soon versus waiting till March). And, its not like I can forget because she is COUNTING down (oh, to be young and count down to your birthday).
Sam’s birthday are a little smaller scale as you can’t really make a party around French fries, oranges, dry cereal (LOL)…. He doesn’t eat cake and isn’t a big fan of strangers, flames on a candle, etc… He does celebrate his gifts (: This year he has declared (much to my surprise and pure happiness that he “gets” what a birthday is) – he is having a Angry Bird Cake (although he won’t eat it) and wants to go to Chucky Cheese (he won’t eat the pizza but wants to play the games).
I turned 40 almost 2 years ago, and I worked and it was just another day… Last year for my birthday we were at the beach – it was then I finally got it… Birthdays are important – it is YOUR DAY and your parents welcomed you into the world this day and God gave you another birthday and you should celebrate!!! I declared at that point that in our family I would take off the day and/or weekend and we should do something that person LOVES (even if the rest of us don’t). I have always been the “dedicated” employee and didn’t take days off and would just squeeze the birthday celebration in… That is NOT CELEBRATING the person – it shows them that work is more important than their day!
We should CELEBRATE — we may not have another year, month, week, day… We had a miscarriage early in our marriage and we never got to celebrate with that child. Little Caleb died before we ever got to celebrate his first birthday… I will never get to celebrate another birthday on earth with my Mom and Grandma Frazee… What if Jim was injuried or killed as he responded to the structure fire last night (which is always a possibility and I say a prayer of protection over all of the firefighters and the family impacted).. and the list goes on…
In an effort to PREPARE (and not procrastinate), I have my time off requests ready to go to work for the year… I took today off for Jim’s and we will enjoy a delicious meal and laughter (this is also an example of how we don’t have to like the other person’s choice – Sam does NOT eat food at a Japanese Steakhouse, hates the noise of the clanging spatulas, and use to hate the big flames – but I will PREPARE and take food for him, earplugs for my phone and Kindle and he will be fine)…
Mary’s birthday in March is evolving… and Sam has made his declaration for Chucky Cheese (although that may change by then – LOL – I suspect he will request somewhere with a pool)… But I can assure you, if the Lord allows, we will be sitting on the beach for my birthday (the one place we all love)!!!
So CELEBRATE the moment, the day, the week, the year… but PREPARE for the big events – it can make a difference in the lives of the ones you love!!!
**of note, I am keeping a list of things that I need to remember for next year (i.e. German Chocolate Cake Mix with Pecan/Coconut Icing — Jim’s requested cake and of course I am out – LOL — guess we will buy and bake this evening).